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May Book Club Reveal

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Hello, Readers!

Spring is here and so is our next Curiosity Seed Book Club pick!

One of Vanity Fair’s “6 New Books to Read in March”
One of Bustle’s “Best New Books of Spring 2025”
One of the San Francisco Chronicle’s “10 New Books that Illuminate the Lives of Women”
One of LitHub’s “Most Anticipated Books of 2025”
Named a Most Anticipated Book of Winter 2025 by
The Millions

Our May book club pick is…

I’ll LOVE YOU FOREVER: NOTES FROM A K-POP FAN
by Giaae Kwon

I have the terrible habit of being a mood reader and kicking my towering pile of “tbr”s to the curb. It feels to early to start on my summery beach romance reads and way to early for dark academia thrillers, so I’ve found myself in a bit of a rut. If you’re in a similar place, let me introduce you to Giaae Kwon’s memoir and K-pop exposé, I’ll Love You Forever. Part ode and part cultural critique, the book chronicles Giaae’s complicated relationship with the K-pop music genre, charting the rise of K-pop idols alongside her own story growing up as an Asian-American expat of both worlds.

“Intensely compelling, courageous, joyful, and illuminating. . . This is truly razor-sharp cultural criticism that will give readers a more profound understanding of Korean history.”—Booklist (starred review)

I’ll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan is a smart, poignant, constantly surprising essay collection that considers the collision between stratospherically popular music and our inescapably personal selves.

It's a thought-provoking critique of both the K-pop industry and the wider culture in Korea, told by an author who is deeply invested and a superfan herself. It’s a thoughtful reminder of how we can remain intellectually curious and critical of even the things that bring us the most joy. We hope this book inspires animated discussions and perhaps a new favorite playlist.

Happy Reading,
Katharyn & Karuna

Book Giveaway!

We are delighted to confirm that 3 lucky subscribers will receive a copy of I’ll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-pop Fan! This month, we will be reaching out to…

Angel R. ◉ Noreen N. ◉ Vikki D.

Thanks for being a part of the book club! We will connect with you directly to get a mailing address.

Meet Giaae Kwon

Kristen Arnett Headshot

Giaae Kwon is a food and culture writer whose work has appeared in Whetstone, Electric Literature, and Taste, among other publications. She wrote a column about K-pop for Catapult and attended the Tin House Summer Workshop in 2022. She divides her time between Los Angeles and Brooklyn, where she’s working on her next project, which explores Korean food through the lens of the diaspora.

Exclusive Author Interview with Giaae Kwon

I think this is a fabulous read for long-time K-pop fans and also for people who aren’t familiar with the industry at all (like me!). Do you have a playlist specifically for the book? Or just a few recommendations for the unseasoned K-pop fan? Or a hidden gem?

Giaae: As part of book promotion, I was able to write a playlist for Large-Hearted Boy! I tried to give a broader sampling of K-pop, focusing on first- to third-generation K-pop.

The problem (if we want to call it that) is that I'm one of the few people who aren't on Spotify, so I don't have a playlist to link out easily. I also don't use Apple Music but purchase all my music on iTunes, so I've been looking into purchasing a mp3 player — or, as they're apparently now called, DAPs for digital audio players. 

(I’ve been working on a massive blog post, including song recommendations, that goes through SM’s entire 30-year roster of artists, though, and I hope to get that finished and posted by the end of May after I'm done with finals. It’s currently 5,000 words.)

If I were to share a few songs that I think could be a primer to K-pop, adding the disclaimer that this is very SM-heavy:

  • H.O.T., “빛 (Hope)”

  • BoA, “Girls On Top”

  • Girls’ Generation, “Into the New World”

  • Epik High, “Fan”

  • Big Bang, “Sober”

  • TVXQ, “Mirotic”

  • aespa, “Spicy”

Your chapter titles are also songs—were they meant to be listened to while reading the chapter?

Giaaae: To be honest, not necessarily! I tried to find lyrics from the artist being highlighted that fit the theme of the essay.

You’re also a food writer, and your love of cooking really comes through in I’ll Love You Forever. If you could pair the book with a specific recipe or a favorite snack, what would it be?

Giaae: I like kimbap, all kinds of kimbap as long as they’re balanced and well-made, so I'd probably say kimbap. With Chilsung Cider, which is superior to Sprite. 

Did you have a certain food, snack, or beverage that fueled your writing?

I have to thank 85 Degrees’ Iced 85 Degrees coffee, large, with ¼ sugar, less ice, and an extra shot for single-handedly fueling the writing of this book. I foolishly never signed up for their rewards program.

You speak very openly about the body shaming you experienced from your community and its lasting impacts. Since the book came out, has it sparked any new conversations with your family or community?

Giaae: Not particularly! Not because we're ignoring it or pretending it didn't happen, but because we've done a tremendous amount of work over the last ten to fifteen years working through it. The only reason I can write as openly and, frankly, comfortably about body shaming is that all parties involved have done the work of actively healing our relationships. Nothing I wrote in the book was new or a surprise to anyone because we're done so much talking and, yes, fighting over the years because, in the end, maintaining these relationships was important to us.

We're all feeling a lot of dread and anxiety these days. Do you have a comfort show or movie you return to whenever you're feeling down? Or a comfort recipe or snack?

Giaae: I re-watch a lot of the same shows for comfort (apparently, it's also an ADD or anxiety thing), and my go-tos are the Reply series (1997 is my personal favorite, obviously), Romance is a Bonus Book, and Hospital Playlist.

When it comes to cooking, I like rolling kimbap and coming up with weird fillings — in Beyond the Story, Jin mentions that Suga would get annoyed with having to eat when they were trainees, so he would make smoothies with chicken breast, bananas, and grapes. I've been working on-and-off on turning this into a kimbap. I already like combining protein with fruit in kimbap, so it’s the banana that’s tripping me up, but I have a few ideas.

For people with a hangover from reading your book, can you suggest some further reading?

Giaae: This isn’t specifically related to K-pop, but I loved Hannah Michell’s Excavations. I think she does such a phenomenal job of distilling twentieth-century Korean history into a very readable novel that isn't even necessarily a historical novel — the book is a fictionalized account of the 1995 collapse of the Sampoong Department Store, so the action of the book is focused on the aftermath of that event. What Michell does so phenomenally, though, is show how this event didn't happen in isolation — there was a lot of history that led up to it, that created the circumstances for such a horrific happening, that shaped the aftermath.

One specific reason I like recommending Excavations is that I think all international K-pop fans should learn about Korean history — or, at the very least, twentieth-century Korean history. There’s a lot of ooh-ing and aah-ing over various elements of K-pop that I think make so much sense within the context of everything Korea went through in the 20th century, and I'm with RM (Bangtan) when he expressed his frustration over this spectacle-making of “darker” aspects of K-pop when there are reasons why K-pop — why Korea — is the way it is. That doesn't make these things acceptable, whether we're talking about exploitative contracts or misogyny, and there’s a lot about modern Korean society that really needs to change, but that’s for Koreans to sort out.

Any thoughts on the new BTS book, Beyond the Story: 10-Year Record of BTS?

Giaae: I find it fascinating how brands shape and reshape their narratives, and idols are very much brands, including Bangtan. I find it fascinating how Bangtan has internalized some of the narrative its international fanbase has embraced; I think it’s specifically the scale of their Western fame that has allowed them to do so.

Your book covers so much ground—from the history of K-pop, criticisms of the industry itself, beauty standards in Korea, the bicultural Korean American experience—there’s so much to talk about here. Is there one thing in particular you hope readers will take away from the book?

Giaae: K-pop is so much bigger than Bangtan and BlackPink, and it came out of a very complicated, violent history. It isn’t right to view K-pop through a Western lens — like, yes, there are very valid things that K-pop needs to reckon with, especially cultural appropriation and racism, and I am not saying that K-pop should be protected from some of the criticism it gets. I am all for companies being held accountable. Separate from that, though, as global as our world is, Korean culture is not the same as Western culture, and K-pop is K-pop — it’s not Western pop, and it doesn’t need to be, nor should it be, in my opinion. I think a group like Bangtan got so big because they’re K-pop, not in spite of, so maybe we should just embrace it!

Maybe it’s obvious given that I wrote an entire book about this, but I love K-pop so much, even while being acutely aware of its flaws, and I think it’s really cool that more people around the world are able to enjoy and experience this shiny, intense, beautiful industry that is K-pop.

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Dig Deeper: Unique Activity Ideas

  1. Stone Soup Book Club: Rather than everyone reading the same book, Newton County Library System’s Stone Soup Book Club is all about everyone picking any book of their choice that fits a selected author or subject. You could pick books on K-pop, Korean food & culture, history, food writing, or Korean-American experiences. As you talk about each of the books you read, try to find threads that tie them all together.

  2. If you’re reading a book with a strong musical theme or element (like I’ll Love You Forever), pick an album that fits the theme of the book to listen to as a group over the course of reading the book. Then you can talk about the book, and your experience of the musical album.

  3. Get together for a K-pop & craft session: Put together a playlist of the songs and bands mentioned in the book to play while you make mood boards, junk journal, or other crafty hobbies.

  4. Create a Book Club Bingo: Design a bingo card with K-pop trivia or book names in the squares. Instead of calling B23, you could call “a BTS song.”

  5. Bring a Korean artist, speaker or author to your event. Hosting an author is a great way to connect more deeply with the book, bring your community together, and adds something so special!

Continued Reading

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